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You must forgive who hurt us
When it hurts us, it is normal for a slow and painful recovery process to occur. Not in vain that person was able to hurt us, not anyone can do it, they only get those who are close to us and this unexpected betrayal is the one that hurts and makes it impossible for us to forgive.
But, many times, more than the impossibility is the doubt that the question raises us: does this person deserve my forgiveness? We usually see forgive.
It is true that forgiveness can sometimes be the first step for reconciliation among people, but it does not necessarily have to be the case. By forgiving, the offended person can recognize that what they have done is not justified and not grant more opportunities, but decides to forgive anyway.
What we do not usually take into account is that by forgiving others we also free ourselves from the burden of resentment. This does not mean having positive feelings, or love, who has hurt us. Forgiving can be a selfish act that is done for oneself, to reduce the negative feelings caused by the poison that they have left us.
Forgiveness is lived personally, so there will be no two people who experience it in the same way. It is in each person having the ability to forgive their time and as better.
Therefore, it is useful to know that it is not a feeling, it is an choice, an act made at will. Forgetting is not forgiving and forgiving is not forgetting, but it is an act of liberation. Get rid of the load that the other offense brings.
Leaving aside the religious or social connotations that can be associated with forgive.
So, if you go through this, do everything you need to feel peace again. Meditate, feel yourself, share with those who really love you, forgive yourself for allowing that person to cause you so much pain, connect with your true self, be resilient.
Forgiveness is a great act of love that you can do for yourself. Keeping in our hearts open wounds of those who hurt us will end up bleeding us. Allow yourself to heal and the pain will disappear.