The confidence between the family and the importance of the family union
Introduction
The trust between the family is vital so that there is a good family union and each of the relatives has the confidence of expressing any concern. To have a good family nucleus, there must be main values;which are instilled from children by parents. The present research work entitled Confidence among the family, aims to answer the following thesis questions: how is trust between the family created? How can you lose trust between the family? How do we maintain trust between the family?
Developing
In order to have a good relationship between the family, trust must be present, since it is the key to everything. The psychologist, Annie de Acevedo (2011) establishes that “there is only one thing that has every human group: trust. And this is built and strengthened, or destroyed, in the relationship that parents build with their children.”As we know in each family there are minors, adolescents and adults;And being able to create trust among all is a bit complicated, but not impossible everything depends on how the family is. In general, families who want to have good confidence deal with any situation together. If some kind of situation is presented to one of the members of that family nucleus, they usually choose to sit together as a family to talk about the situation. In this way, you can create and maintain good communication and above all a good family confidence.
The loss of trust is usually more perceived from parents to children, but making the clarification that this only happens when an event previously passed where one as a son failed his father. It should be noted, which also occurs in reverse without any event there any event where the father has failed his son. The children usually distrust their parents;And this happens since they know that if they tell them something disturbing can cost him the confidence that they as parents give him. In a publication (psychologist and pedagogue Celia Rodríguez Ruíz, 2015) appoints the four reasons why a child loses confidence in her parents: unfulfilled promises. On many occasions the parents make promises to their sons and daughters that they do not meet and this makes trust be lost.
Not having time for them. When boys or girls decide to have confidence and tell us something it is important to pay them the attention they need. On many occasions they need to tell us something and if we are not available for them, they interpret it as carefree or lack of interest.
The need for autonomy and identity development. As they grow they will have to develop their own identity and get away from their fathers and mothers.
Break trust. Often when boys or girls tell us something, we tend to see it as unimportant things and betray their trust telling other people, this makes the little ones stop trusting.
Trust is something that over the years is harvesting with the intention of strengthening for when an event occurs can cope with the problem. Create trust among the family can lead to some time may even be that it is not possible. When there are minors, you understand young children the relationship between parents and children is as sincere as possible, since children always tell the truth. The biggest problem is when they grow and become adolescents. This stage is the toughest, both for the son and for the father, this is because when one is a teenager he often prefers to shut up or talk to an individual;Because he knows that it is a bit risky to speak with a relative about important issues, such as: sexuality, alcohol consumption at an early age or some type of drug such as marijuana;which is the most common drug among young people today, or simply having done something when you told your parents that you would do something else.
In society there are two types of families, open families who have the full confidence of saying anything including the aforementioned examples and still continue, try to understand, help the adolescent with what they can and be within their reach. On the other hand, there are families that are closed;Those who do not provide any kind of confidence to their child or if it is provided by adults in charge of the ado. That teenager if he knows that he did something that was incorrect in the eyes of his parents will stay with that experience or simply when he reaches the age of majority, he decides to share it with his parents, that depends on the person. On the other hand, there are also young people who are curious and others that are moderate. Curious young people usually do everything I mentioned in the past examples, these are the most closed when having to establish some kind of conversation with their parents about these issues;since if he has a family who thinks there is time for everything and the young man is aware of that, that teenager will never tell his parents anything. Because he knows that he will lose trust and probably parents will feel disappointment, since that way they did not raise that young man. Instead, young people living in moderation;They believe that everything has their time and time to do things. So, they usually have greater confidence with their parents;And more if their parents think the same.
conclusion
It is concluded that the trust between a family nucleus must be as sincere as possible, since it is responsible for opening certain family gaps, issues or important problems that any family member is confronting. Trust is like a seed, which must be cultivated by each person. In addition, trust is something that is won, but it is so fragile that with only an incorrect act that confidence that had once had been totally lost. As this trust takes more strong solidity it will be the family nucleus. Each participant must make sure they do not lose confidence with any of the members of their nucleus. From this passing can break the family nucleus;We can also see the different ways of being able to harm and lose confidence simply for not making good decisions.
So that there are full confidence within a family nucleus, the truth has to always be present in order to have good communication. Which leads you to reap good trust with your family. It should be noted, not all families are equal some have more confidence than others. According to the Belén Foundation (2019) “Family trust is a bond of indestructible belonging that has to be built. It could be argued that the trust placed in others provides security and satisfactions that result in an increase in happiness. Trust is also one of the basic pillars of love. It is not born with children as love, it is a daily job, based on facts rather than words. Although also uses words, because it is necessary not to lie and correct in positive and punish the wrong. It is not a sweet that is given. It is a permanent attitude of availability and safety in good."
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