Infidelity in the times
Introduction
The issue of infidelity is so important these days, that it is usually one of the main reasons of conversation or appears almost safely as a topic of reflection or relief in the course of the conversation itself, whether the subject is touched withFriends, family … Although this issue is very recurring at all times and cultures, in general it has not been studied deeply and correctly, this seems to be a phenomenon that was set aside.
With this, it is reflected that infidelity as a subject of study, is defined with multiple paradigms, that is, everyone with their position, implying that there is no definition of worldwide because the issue is immensely complex to understand. It is an issue that covers everyone, although some people believe they are totally alien to infidelity or think that it will never affect them, but the truth is that it is an environment that we will all live and that we have probably lived at some point in our lives orthat we are living in this precise moment, perhaps in the place of the lover, of the unfaithful or of the deceived person even having occupied several of these alternative or parallel roles.
Developing
To begin we could define infidelity as the breakdown of a contract, agreement or pact, in which one of the two members in a couple has some kind of relationship with a third person. While this may sound very clear, sometimes the limits of what is considered an infidelity varies from person to person;There are many people who think that if there was no sex there is no infidelity for them kisses would not count, others where a kiss is only one or both parties is already infidelity, others more violent believe that with just thinking about doing or fantasizing withAnother person is enough to commit an infidelity.
The fundamental plot to talk about infidelity is the rupture of the contract that I mentioned above. Which, very rarely it is explained, and is usually above in most cases and in it, both members of the couple remain in maintaining a link of sexual and affective exclusivity only for them. When breaking or violating this contract between the members of the couple, the trust and the word of that contract are crumbled in a matter of seconds, ending or damaging the relationship.
The confidence of the affected people is the one that is most harmed after an infidelity is discovered, even more the deceived person will have difficulties to think again about trusting someone else again, when they did not meet what they had agreed or agreed. Normally, infidelity is more associated with the male gender than with the female.
Men in all cultures and at all times were more unfaithful than women, that is a fact, although it is increasingly common to see female infidelity. It is commonly said that man is unfaithful by nature and that he is only interested.
The motivations that lead men to be unfaithful are many and varied, the most usual would be the simple desire to have sex, are the reasons related to the search to find new adventures or expand new horizons, the need to affirm themselves before society asVirile males, raise their self – esteem and feel accepted by their conquests, etc. Infidelity in men also has some emblematic characters such as Don Juan and Casanova.
When a woman deceives her man, she is not usually easy for the latter for forgiving her, nor accepting such infidelity towards him. This due to strong social pressure, since the man can be judged for not being able to satisfy his wife and also normally expected that the woman is the one who cheats. Male pride makes them difficult to overcome an infidelity, if they were deceived, regardless of the affection and love they have for their partner.
If a man forgives his unfaithful partner, he is not well seen or socially accepted, since he will see it as a sign of weakness or permissiveness. Otherwise where cases where the male has been unfaithful, it is expected that his wife will forgive him if he really shows a sincere regret.
When the man discovers that his partner is being unfaithful, he is frequent that he tries to violate his partner’s lover, this attempt to claim or defend himself against such humiliation, is a masculine way to clean the stained image and recover a little of the honor that was cumbersomefor your partner. Instead of directing the claims, not violent, towards their partner with which he did have a agreement or fidelity agreement.
When an infidelity occurs and it is finally found by the other, the motto of trust begins to occupy the foreground in the relationship. As we well know trust is one of the pillars in any relationship is a couple or even work. There are those who have a very low level of confidence and begin to direct teasing towards themselves, wondering and damaging their thoughts repeatedly wondering what they have done wrong why they have to receive such punishment. After a hoax or loss of trust, which did not question before now begins to question the passage of the hours.
conclusion
The man who was deceived fears that he has not told him everything that really happened that information is hidden or that he is still deceived again, to believe again and trust that person in such circumstances becomes very difficult;In cases where the relationship ends because of an infidelity, re -trusting another couple can be very difficult and chaotic at the same time, hence some people conclude in absolutist beliefs of the type: all men are unfaithful.
Trust is related to fidelity, since with the deception that agreement or initial contract is broken that staggers the structure of the relationship itself. Normally, loyalty is one of the most important characteristics that the couple is asked and is usually the main factor that reinforces the relationship between the two. For this reason, the best not to have problems with your partner either because it has been injured or not on other occasions by other couples, it is to show him that he has your total confidence towards him and in the same way the other part must demonstrate his confidence in withThe other person, since the loss of trust can bring crisis in different areas.
Bibliography
- See Herrera, Noah (2010) ‘Infidelity: what’s behind her?’, Virtual newspaper Noticaribe News
- Beltrán, Rosa (2006). High infidelity. Mexico: Alfaguara.
- Velasco, José (2007). "The plot of infidelity". Electronic Journal of Psychology Iztacala, UNAM, Vol. 10, no. (3): 34-47.
- Zumaya, Mario (2006). Infidelity, that frequent visitor. Mexico: Books for all.
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