Emotional dependence following gender violence
At present, there is much talk about emotional dependence, following the movement against gender violence, but it was not always like that and we tended to normalize it and ignore it. We relate this term to the anxiety that is suffered to the idea of abandonment and the consequences it entails is that it is completely willing to do and support all kinds of things in order not to feel it. This disorder is present in Brígida’s life. During his childhood, he was instilled in the idea that he was silly, from his father, so Brígida decides to marry a man who did not feel guilty of how it was like. This is how he marries the mutual company and a support that gave him the emotional stability he needed. During the course of the story reflects Brígida’s life and the importance of the tree for her takes, since she relates it to her feelings and emotions, because it was her way of escape from reality, it was all that, ofSomehow, she wanted to be.
The story starts with the stories of abuse and abandonment he suffered from his father. Daily disqualifications causes her to feel unintelling, but for her it was normal, she understands and accepts it. In a house full of women, all daughters, and absence of the mother, tired of teaching them and assuming responsibility, simply "yields" with Brígida, and makes her feel useless and delayed. Because of this, he seeks to supply that love and attention to the side of an older person, who does want it, but not the way he needs, because more than a husband, he was like his ideal father. Little by little he becomes more dependent on her husband and supports loneliness and a marriage that did not make her happy.
"Brígida", a name that we could assimilate a virtuous woman, but who, however, in our story, from the beginning showed us the sensitivity, simplicity and the most intimate feeling of a damaged woman who took an incredible strength despite theMisoginia of his father and the constant abuse of contempt, but whose strength hid when he married and finally yielded to the emotional dependence of her husband. "How pleasant it is to be ignorant! Not knowing exactly who Mozart was;ignore his origins, his influences, the peculiarities of his technique! Leave only by him by the hand, like now.”History is told in a sexist period, Luis does not attend Brígida, which causes him a drowning in solitude. Due to this reason, the protagonist decides. Brígida begins to feel accompanied by the tree, feeling affection towards darkness, which is interpreted as its own reality.
Thus, it is necessary to tell the similarities that Brígida saw with the gomero. We know that trees grow, bloom and die. What happened to Brígida?, The protagonist decides to abandon Luis, was her agency?, It is clear how to see the tree die in it, a weak force, but still existing. She decides to abandon her unhappy life to finally move on and find her happiness full. When they cut the gomero, light enters the room, this light takes away his intimacy, it is as if he felt naked in the middle of the street, in front of an old man, who did not hug her when he sleeps and turned his back on him, what happenedFor Brígida it is his triumph that triggers a series of answers, the gomero for the protagonist was the way she had to reassure the feelings towards her husband, "… her awakenings. Ah! How sad your awakenings! But – it was curious – he barely passed to his dress room, his sadness dissipated as for charm… ”.
For Brígid. The protagonist watched him and felt nostalgia, it was, rather an escape from her unhappy life, seeing such a beautiful gomero. However, the fact that the tree was cut causes the protagonist to release the patriarchy chains and dependence on her husband. A transformation of being a submissive and obedient person occurs, one who is aware of his own misfortune.
The life of Magdalena Carmen Frida Kahlo is an example of that. She was a Mexican painter. This woman despite being empowered suffered from emotional dependence, so she endured everything in order not to be abandoned, but reflected an escape of it in her paintings. (Trujillo).
Finally, I want to capture Brígida’s unconscious. In itself the story is surreal, through which it is about explaining the functioning of thoughts, in the absence of any control exercised by reasoning. The unconscious in Brígida’s life is very important, because everything from here. Her life is difficult, she decides not to fight against her father, "… I’m not going to fight anymore, it’s useless. Leave it. If you don’t want to study, don’t study. If she likes to spend in the kitchen, hearing tales of Ánimas, there she. If you like dolls at sixteen, who plays … "here is the dependence, an emotional breakdown and a submission that unconsciously did not escape.
It is recurring, even today, see this situation. As women we live still submitted to male dependence, from home administration, to that of an entire country. What has lived by our protagonist refers to the need he has to attention and affection. This is why the dependence and submission seizes her life and she participates in a dysfunctional marriage that causes him unhappiness. The absence of the tree caused a reality shock in it, which caused him to react to his misfortune. But let’s not forget that it is a story, in the absolute reality, which allows us to escape?, Is it necessary to live a strong emotion of helplessness to realize? Or is it simply what we must live?
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