BENEFITS OF THE POSITIVE PARENTALITY
If the raising of children is a link that is built just like any other, why not bet on a parenting model based on empathy, respect and love treatment? The benefits of positive parentality are perceived in the short term, it would almost be said that immediately, and last for the adult life of the children.
The cry, the blow, the violence, transmit to the very negative base children, both for the present and for the future. On the other hand, building from positive parentality releases them and opens many paths;Of course, the change towards this new parenting paradigm must be accepted as a commitment of the whole family.
What is positive parentality?
The principles of this model, which extends from parenting at home to the educational and institutional, are not complex. On the contrary, they are few and very simple. It is important to rule out all kinds of authoritarian actions, arbitrary and rigid systems, helplessness itself.
In practice it is necessary to carry out an exercise of empathy and learn to see, empathize and understand childhood. In fact, it is the child who must be in the center of each decision, word and action within the daily life of a home, school and even society.
For all the above, among the central points of this philosophy are the following:
- Avoid punishment, threats, screams, which only provide bad influences in child development. The benefits of positive parentality are translated, in the long term, in women and men who do not act for fear, but by ethical conviction.
- Empathize. Ask children how they feel, what do they think, what do they need, trying to understand how they perceive the world.
- Give security: children need to feel protected and valued. In macho cultures, it usually happens that male children are not comforted or protect them even when they ask for it. However, this abandonment only reinforces inequality between women and men.
- Demonstrate openly affection: not only kisses and hugs;Also the little ones feel loved when they are listened to, when quality moments are shared with them, when they are given space.
- Provide a framework for action and containment: the rules of coexistence must always be clear and transparent;It is a mistake to believe that this breeding model ‘lacks limits’. On the contrary, one of the greatest benefits of positive parentality is that children internalize the standards in a healthy way.
- Create a coexistence with democratic sense: life, at home or school must be based on the consensus achieved by love persuasion and continuous understanding.
Benefits of positive parentality
Experts contemplate, deepening this parenting model, the degree of ‘parental stress’ of families. In this sense, the parents who adhere to this model will be ‘more satisfied with parenting’. With this type of measures that favor positive parentality, assertiveness, communication and problem solving are improved. So that the benefits act throughout the family group.
Consequences of studies carried out
The authors of the different studies carried out, mention the following benefits:
- The optimal development of the child or adolescent is enhanced, in a climate of harmony and good treatment with their parents and caregivers.
- Unlike permissive or authoritarian models, the possibility of a ‘democratic style’ of parenting and education, opens a way for the child to understand and participate in the rules of coexistence.
- As the child gains confidence thanks to the respectful breeding mode, it acquires greater self-efficiency. That is, you will know how to practice what you learn in the different areas.
- A resounding decrease in antisocial behaviors in children and adolescents is observed: children acquire self-control.
- Parental stress is reduced: fear of failure as parents, the feeling of guilt, strives when each step in parenting is based on empathy, respect, trust and clear norms.
In conclusion, the benefits of positive parentality begin to be perceived immediately in everyday interactions within the home. The democratic style, the clear rules, the lack of any type of violence, open a light horizon, not only for those well -raised children, but for the whole environment.
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