As pious lies affect us throughout our life
Since children they instilled in us the idea that lying is bad, that some lies are worse than others. This suggests that there are different types of lies, serious and pious lies. All at some point in our life we have lied, in fact, we are not aware of how often we lied. Some studies show that on average human beings lie at least three times a day. Although lying is very common, society disapproves.
As we mentioned initially, since we are children, they teach us that lying is something bad and if always, first of all, we must tell the truth, but nevertheless we are exposed to this since our early days. Like the famous lie, which we come from the stork, Pope Noel or Santa Claus later arrives in our lives, and how to forget the Pérez Mouse. In spite of all this, why do we grow with the idea that all lies are bad, but they constantly expose them to them? There are times when not harming others or oneself, we lack the truth. If we analyze the last part, are pious lies good for our social relationships? Next, we will explain why pious lies are necessary for daily social relationships, for this, we will see first that the truth can affect those around us as ourselves. Then, we will concentrate on analyzing why pious lies avoid the consequences of truth. Finally, we will see how pious lies help us adapt to our environment and thus improve our social relationships.
The writer Anatole France said “humanity has the need for truth;But he has even more need for lies, that he admires, he consumes it, give him unlimited hopes ’. The truth is sometimes the worst option when relating to others. Most of us prefer to ignore the truth or simply not know, we prefer the lie, make up the truth and show their less cruel face, would end up sinking into a deep sadness, because we could not emotionally or mentally resist some truths some truths. Pious lies are necessary in our social relationships since they serve to avoid hurting the feelings of those around us, avoiding confrontations, creating links between us, but the most important thing help the formation and consolidation of society. Serious lies on the contrary cause the division of the community and weakens their ties. One way to prove that the truth is not the best alternative is to ask ourselves, how would I feel if someone is really sincere with me? We would feel sadness, anger, disappointment, etc. It is good to think that we would like to hear us before releasing the truth.
As an example we have the research carried out at the University of Oxford, which develops a mathematical model on how social groups grow and how they evolve over time applying an important variable: the lie. From serious lies, such as lying on having stolen him, or pious lies, so as notindividuals improved over time thanks to them. This experiment was published in the Journal Proceedings of the Royal Society B. The researchers explained that the developed mathematical model is a “summarized” version of reality, assuming that people used lies constantly over time and in all social relationships that can have their lives.
Like almost all acts of the human being, the important thing lies in the intention, what is behind, and not in the act itself. There are those who boast of being totally sincere and are releasing the truth throughout the world in a uncontrolled way. In these cases we must really think about their intention, that is, the truth or hurt others, putting them in a vulnerable state, justifying a moral pretext. It is here when we realize that a lie is valued when the reason that promoted it and the consequences it prevented is known. If the intention is to avoid major evils, the most reasonable and noble is to set aside our moral prejudices and concentrate on the effects of the vedada. Sometimes lies are of great help to soften the hard blow of reality, at least until finding a better form and the right time to tell the truth. There are times when lying is not deceiving, in the moral sense of the word, but avoiding unnecessary and useless conflicts.
Such is the example of the Argentine film "Pious lies" this showA rare bar. After a while, no one in Buenos Aires has new news of him. This causes your mother to fall ill. Trying to avoid going more, Pablo’s brothers, Jorge and Nora pretend that his brother continues to send letters announcing that his musical career goes very well and that he is touring several European cities, which manages to relieve the mother’s anxiety. As we could see, lying is not always bad, sometimes like these, it can help avoid serious consequences, such as, that Paul’s health worse.
We like it or not all have lied and we will continue doing it, the truth is that pious lies or deceptions, as they want to call it, are part of our daily social relationships. And, it is impossible to have the same behavior in front of our friends, bosses, parents, unknown or couple. This is when we realize that we always use lies to adapt to any situation of our daily living, improving our personal relationships. If any see we have come to ask ourselves, is it possible that human beings are completely sincere?, Of course, the answer is a resounding. Being totally honest would fill the environment of aggressiveness, and hostility, like "that you look bad today", "you are a bad person and I can’t stand you as a boss, but I have nothing left but to endure you". So, although we say that we do not like lies, we must admit that we use lies to improve all our social relationships, that we arrive at us throughout our lives, and we must also remember that we do not like to thunder us in faceOur truths.
Imagine a completely sincere day, a mental exercise type, which would happen if tomorrow, from the time we get up until we go to bed, we tell the people we talk to, everything that comes to mind to us. Tell our co -workers or study, bosses, friends, brothers, children absolutely everything we think about them. We can see this assumption in the sketch "a sincere world" of TV plug, in which it shows that everyone is completely sincere and says what you think without any filter, from a comic point of view. But what happens if it is taken to the real world, the consequences would be disastrous, apart from causing a lot of suffering, we would seem unfriendly to people, we would end up without work, family, friends, etc. It is for this reason that pious lies help us adapt our behavior to each situation of our day to day, improving our ties with others.
In the movie "Chief by accident", there is talk of Maya’s character, who after having worked fifteen years in Value Shop and arriving at the deputy manager and is ready to direct the supermarket. She is an intelligent, innovative, highly qualified person, who listens to customers and knows how to help them, although she never studied her university studies. Despite all its professional qualities, the ascent is given to a little talented man, but with university titles. Amid so much frustration, he receives a big surprise, a very successful company, Cosmetics wants her in her work team. It turns out that the son of his best friend, a computer genius, gave him a little push, falsifying his curriculum to provide it with personal achievements, sports triumphs and titles in the best universities. At that time, his professional career takes off, thanks to the sales experience acquired in his previous job, and the help of her friends. This is a clear example of how lie helps us survive in society. This lie helped her realize that she is able to achieve anything that is proposed, although in the end all the deception is discovered. Thanks to this experience, he manages to improve his life and open his own company.
Up to this point we have seen that the lies have two faces, but one of them is necessary for the community, they are inevitable in our social and interpersonal relations, pious lies achieve strengthenings between individuals improving our relationships, which was demonstrated in the modelMathematician, but, also, we have the lies that can cause a lot of pain and even ruin lives, they can even disintegrate a society. In addition, we argued that the lies come to avoid the consequences of the truth, seen the Argentine film "pious lies".
Finally, we affirm that pious lies help us adapt to our environment and thus improve our social relationships, it is the example we use, the “sincere world” sketch of TV plug. It is something contradictory how lying can fragment social life and affect each individual in the community, but, on the other hand, being totally sincere can somehow affect satiety. So how to know if a lie is good or bad?
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