The lady of Mercy
Introduction
Today we can realize that one of the greatest demotivations that teenagers and children have is the abandonment of their father or mother, this happens as much as they decide to leave home so as not to fulfill their responsibility or when they are physicallyAt home, but they only dedicate themselves to work and do not dedicate time to parenting and accompaniment during the development and growth of the child, they are not affective parents with their children, they only focus on giving him the material and is the mother inMany cases that is affective with their children.
“Abandonment goes beyond the economic, that is to say of the father as the supplier who does not contribute money. Abandonment begins with a very deep bond that does not happen ". I do paraphrase inferring that this is completely true, because we as human beings can realize that we need much more than money to be happy, it is obvious that it is needed to meet needs, but in the case of a child or adolescent it is more valuableThe love and company of his father to have all the luxuries of the world.
Developing
It should be clarified that not in all cases it is so but in the majority, and that is the abandonment that most marks the life of a child or adolescent not having a company of his father or mother, here in Colombian society we can give ourselvesHe says that there are more men than women abandoning their home and that is where we can realize that to separate from their partner, for some it also implies cutting ties with their children and only fulfilling money and no love.
We can realize that there are parents who believe that fulfilling a support are already providing everything to the children, but they do not realize that their love is most important, their support and their time. We must realize that today there are many single mothers who fight to get their children ahead, there is much more the case that the father is the one who leaves the home, it is rare to find that a mother leaves her children alone, but this does not mean that it is not seen.
Since in society we can realize that for some women their children become a burden, because they consider that they are very young to raise a child or that they lack a lot to live, and that is why they decide to neglect their children in a way, they are not aware of the attitudes and behaviors of the minor or adolescent, which can be negative in order to get the attention of their mother or father, which in a certain case can live with both of them, but none gives it the necessary attention.
Maternal or paternal abandonment has an emotional, physical or psychological way of the child, makes the child feel excluded from society, achieves in the least a state of guilt or pain, because the indifference of his parents or suggests that he wasThe cause of this situation, many times minors or adolescents become violent or even show possessive attitudes, in the case of the adolescent can surround themselves with bad friendships and choose the path of drugs, steal or get to commit crimes.
Their pain and anguish managesmore important the work than listening to it and above all or makes forget in the moments where he felt only having a mother and a father who never paid the minimum attention and in many cases when the parents react and realize thatThey did badly by forgetting their son, it’s too late.
The father is such a significant figure in the life of any woman who, although she has left alive in the minds of the children and even in her heart. Every father or mother is important for the growth of his son, no matter his age, he will always need a sincere hug and a good advice that only a mother and a father know how to give, an abandoned child will always live marked, because in the courseFrom his life he would remember that he did not have the love of the people or the person who loved the most and from whom he expected unconditional company.
He will remember all the moments when he wanted to play with Pope and was not, remember all times that he hit and Mama was not there to cure him. Sometimes the fathers or mothers who leave their children, usually repeat the same experience that happened to them when children, or some decide to change the story and that is why they give them a happy childhood and full of love of their children.
“In the deep memory what the family, the roles of mom and dad is registered from the experience that the children had. When there is absence of these events, there will not be the reference ". We are still in a society in which children are not planned. That implies that the maternity or paternity trade is improvised, and on many occasions it is preferred to leave, explained Gloria Mercedes Isaza, family psychologist and author of the book discover your GPS.
- Argument by saying that one of the causes we find for this issue is when young people from an early age have relationships without proper protection and this causes an unwanted pregnancy and the better solution for them is to give it for adoption or in the maximum case aborted, one of theAlso solutions for young parents is to leave children.
- Forced displacement could also be one of the causes of abandonment of children or adolescents, because due to violence many people emigrate to seek a better quality of life, but in many circumstances things do not come out as people expect and suffer violence orThey are subjected and for this reason they are obliged to abandon their children against their will, this causes in children sorrows and anguish by not knowing what to do.
- Intrafamily violence is one of the possible causes of abandonment of parents, since they are mistreated by the father or mother, it is rare to see that man suffers physical violence, but cases have been seen, we see more than suffer verbal violence. We find ourselves more that the woman is a victim of physical violence and when she reaches the point of denouncing and leaving her home, sometimes without her children.
- Divorce of parents, when love between parents ends or there are infidelities, it is when the least suffers, since this plays with their emotional state, it is difficult for them to get to live only with their father or mother, this is the most causeStrong abandonment to speak, because that is when the father or mother decides.
- The economy, many times some father do not have the stability they want and this makes them move away from their child, because the idea of thinking that they do not have to give their children weigh more than being with them when they need it.
We must realize that bringing a child to the world is not a game, we must see the responsibilities that this entails, because everything that happens has its pro and cons, you have to learn that everything beyond love. I propose the following solutions for abandonment as youth demotivation, based on my person and my point of view:
- Children as a priority of parents, I offer this solution, because we must realize that parents at the time of divorcing when they decideThey must become aware and realize that before they are a minor who are forming for life.
- Promote women planning more, so that they do not have unwanted children to call it and organize according to their times so they will not have the need to abandon or abort a baby, who realizes that a life is valuableAnd that at the moment that baby arrives at them, it is to educate and love it.
- Working in the family, that is, strengthening families, accompanying and empowerAccount that generations that can change or follow our history will come.
- The good father and children relationship, that the father always keeps in mind how much he needs it, to learn that his children need it, that money goes and goes but his love does not, that he always has the disposition to advise and listen toyour son.
conclusion
Things that we cannot remember, but this stage is fundamental because somehow the brain keeps information that will be replicated later, so it is not totally aware of that. The boy who received attention, affection, who was not mistreated, would surely be a good father, because his brain remembers those moments and tends to replicate them, he said.
“There is the fertilizer is a problem which if we continue as we will never end, because we do not create awareness of how important a life is, how much it will suffer if they abandon it, the emotional damage that that child will always live will be his life, day, dayYou will remember that he did not have a guide, that even if it is very hard to accept his reality to his parents, he is great to take care of him and educate him.
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