Love in cholera times: Sick Love
Introduction
Many times in your life you have asked yourself this question and I will answer you according to my experience and those that have told me, according to the books that I have read what sense and answer I have determined for it. Since we are born we are sentimentally exposed to that emotional attraction towards our parents, brothers, grandparents, uncles and friends called love.
However, when we grow and pass specifically through the youth period in our lives, we begin to feel some even more intense affection, in the case of boys towards some girl and girls towards a boy. This said feeling is indispensable in our life and is strengthened with the passing of days, with the fact of see.
However, not everything we want corresponds to us and not everything we want will make us fully happy. There is the possibility that at the time of deciding to deliver our soul and trust to that person we want so much, this is not in our lives with the same intention to do well. Love can be harmful, selfish, pernicious and even sickly, but it can also be true, real, sincere, humble, respectful and durable.
Developing
Now, the word love has different meanings that have been established according to the perspective or appreciation that each person entails with this. For the Royal Spanish Academy who gives us a general concept, love is the feeling towards another person who naturally attracts us and who, seeking reciprocity in the desire for union, completes us, rejoices and gives energy to live together, communicate and create.
Also, Plato from a personal point of view says: love consists in feeling that the sacred being beats within the loved one. Although love in good terms is more recognized, it has those who oppose this conceptualization, since not for everyone love is the most beautiful feeling that may exist;For some people it is really sick.
With respect to sick love, it is one that refers to pain, frustration and masochism that exists in many couples;since they believe in the change of attitude of their partner or believe that it is worse to have nothing. This love is deadly, and should be avoided at all costs, so you have to detect it promptly. You are in a sickly love when:
First, they don’t love you. Expressions of the type "Give me some time" or "let me think" are indicative that they don’t love you. Do not accept alms and free yourself from that relationship. Second, hinder your personal growth. A couple should complement ourselves, add, make us evolve as a person, while evolving the relationship. If you feel that you have stagnated or, worse, that person subtracts you, replace the situation. Vulneo your principles or values. There are things in which we cannot give in, because it would mean betraying ourselves. How far are you willing to negotiate for love?
conclusion
Third, you become an instrument to satisfy others. Not only is it a matter of giving, to sacrifice for the other, in a relationship it is also necessary to receive. No one has the right to use you to satisfy their own personal desires. You have rights, don’t forget! Fourth, you lose freedom and autonomy. No one has the right to decide for you, or to coercion to be where you do not want to be. If you feel that you are not the owner of your own life, get out of there!.
On the contrary, true love is the one where the person deals with you and you feel that he cares, the one who is glad with your achievements and accompanies you at a difficult time, which respects your times and your choices. The possible and real love is intimately related to what in everyday language we could state as "love very much", and that simplified can be defined as the simple and committed manifestation of the purest interest that someone is able to feel for another person.
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